Stop Tolerating People You Don’t Like

The biggest interpersonal mistake I ever made was not having self-respect. Not having self-respect is terrible. It led me down a path of nonsense, drama, and problems. But that’s a story for another article, although the focus of this article does relate to the topic of respecting oneself. The second biggest mistake I ever made interpersonally was hanging out with people I only tolerated and didn’t like. I’m sure a lot of us have made this mistake. If you’re like me, you’ve suffered the consequences too. Hanging out with people that you don’t like is a huge waste of time. I think you should avoid doing it for a variety of reasons.

Tolerating people you don’t like can lead to conflict

This is the biggest danger of tolerating people you don’t like. When you spend time tolerating people that you don’t like, conflict is highly likely to arise. This is because people that you don’t like are likely to make you angry. Most people can control their anger during the short term. But over the long term, tolerating people that you don’t like will lead to an awkward exchange of energy between you and the people you tolerate. People know when you don’t like them, and if you let things bother you for long enough, you might “explode”, from a temperamental point of view.

Tolerating people that you don’t like causes you to build unhealthy resentments

When you’re around people you don’t like, you tend to feel stressed out. Everything is a chore, or a bore, and you probably find yourself getting angry a decent amount of the time. You might get more headaches or stomachaches because you’re more stressed out. You might be thinking about incidents or moments with the people you don’t like for a while after you interact with them. This is really bad, because you want to be healthy, generally speaking. Without your health, there’s quite literally no way for you to live life. Never exchange that for approval or friendship. It’s not worth it at all.

People who resent you will bring you down in small ways

As I said in the first paragraph, people can feel your energy when you’re around them. If they think you have something against them, they grow to resent you. If they resent you, you’re in trouble. People who resent you are extremely dangerous to your life, health, and safety. This is especially true if those people are resentful and angry. Anger shuts off people’s brain cells. When people are angry with you, they’ll hurt you in irrational ways just to see you suffer. This is extremely dangerous for anyone who’s young and looking to find success in life.

You can collaborate with people that you like

If the people who you don’t like are likely to end up being dangerous to you, the people who you do like are probably equally likely to end up being helpful to you. It’s like I said before. People can feel the energy radiating off of you. If you can meet people who are really engaged and who really engage you and spend time around them, you’re highly likely to find success in your endeavors. Teamwork makes the dreamwork and two heads are always better than one. Spending time around people that you like is only logical, because when you put your heads together, you can build your vision of the world together. This can apply both in and out of the workplace.

The point of dating is to enjoy your partner

If you’re friends with people you don’t like, it’s going to permeate other aspects of your life. Dating is one of the most important aspects of your social life. If you date people you don’t like just because they’re hot, rich, or otherwise attractive, you’re likely to find yourself feeling extremely unhappy. Even if you’re hanging out with your dream guy or girl, the memories won’t be as beautiful.

Life is too short

You only live once. This is why it’s important to work hard and try new things when you’re young. The last thing you want is for life to have passed you by, without you having accomplished anything or seen what there is to see in the world. The same thing applies to the people around you. Life is way too short to be wasting time with people who take the wind out of your sails and feel less happy. Spend time with people who make you feel good, because you only live once. You’ll be happier and you’ll make much better memories.

Don’t waste time around people you don’t like. As was stated in the previous paragraph, life is too short. Tolerating people you don’t like sucks, and it can get very dangerous if you let certain types of conflicts brew. Take it from me. I’ve spent a lot of time tolerating people I didn’t like and gotten little in return for my efforts. Instead, I’ve taken licks from life, and ended up getting slapped in the face by the people I tolerated, regardless of how much time or energy I invested in them. It’s better to avoid the experience altogether. Focus on the good stuff, along with the good people.

Thanks for paying attention.

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