I live in a country with a very high murder rate. I don’t fear for my safety on a day to day basis, but have to extremely careful where I go and who I interact with. I don’t make myself small, but I also make sure to minimize the amount of problems I get into. I’m pretty quiet, and I’m “in and out” of most locations.
Interacting with Americans and people who’ve lived in America reminded me why people are so angry up there. To put it frankly, Americans are rude as hell. Now, I’m not saying I’m perfect, but it’s astonishing how annoying American acquaintances can get, and how boldly they speak to other people.
A few weeks ago, I had some kid from New York call me a peice of shit. I wish I could play tough and say this behavior gets you smacked where I live, but to be honest nobody acts like that here. At least not middle class people. A lot of my other American acquaintances and friends have been equally impolite, and I found myself flying off the handle in the past. These people always managed to somehow piss me off. I eventually learned my lesson, and now I focus on myself.
I don’t think my experience is unique. It might be if you live in a really nice neighborhood, or a small town. But I think part of the reason there are so many Karen videos on YouTube and people in prison, is because US culture is quite rough and rude. It can get violent in the worst case scenarios.
I personally don’t like to live around crazy stuff. I work hard with the aspiration of living in a nice peaceful neighborhood, and having calm, uplifting friends.
I don’t see the point in putting people down. At least, not intentionally. I don’t really need to hurt others to feel big. A family member of mine often says that Donald Trump caused people to get ruder. I’m not so sure. I remember some left leaning people being pretty nasty well before the orange man was elected. But one thing I do know, is that a lot of people are very comfortable being impolite nowadays. A lot of it comes from insecurity. These economic times are stressing a lot of people out. People are becoming lonelier, angrier, and more degenerate. It’s best to live in a wealthier area if you can nowadays, even if you have to stretch yourself to afford the rent. Avoid people who are intentionally rude and verbally abusive. It just brings you down and makes life less worthwhile and fun.
I personally have found that since living around polite, friendly family members, I feel more balanced. I have more self confidence, and I am much more mentally calibrated. As I age, I have no interest in dealing with or being around anything else. A well curated space and a well curated friend group = a happier life.
By Rising Current on .
Exported from Medium on November 8, 2024.
