Hypermasculinity is one of those things that you can’t fight against without sounding like a dork or a male feminist. But I’m going to do it anyway, because hypermasculinity is stupid. It’s annoying at best, harmful at worst. What I know for sure about hypermasclinity is that it won’t help you, at all. I wanted to write an article about hypermasculinity from the perspective of a guy in his late 20s. If there are any super young guys reading, they can know why hypermasculinity is a bad state of being.
Hypermasculinity makes life about conquest and comparison
This makes it a really dangerous ideology for two reasons. Not only does it make men selfish and dangerous, it encourages unhappiness. If men think they need to spend their time conquering, then they end up in terrible jobs that sometimes literally work them to death.
Hypermasculinity encourages the othering of women
When I was young, the Red Pill had little to no pushback. This was very bad for me and a lot of other young guys, because it taught us to view women as very fundamentally different from us guys. It took me a while to break out of that thinking.
Hypermasculinity encourages disrespect of boundaries
Sometimes it’s as simple as shoving someone when they’re unaware. Anyone who’s spent a lot of time in the wrong kinds of all-male environments knows what I’m talking about. You don’t want to go down this road, for reasons relating to self esteem and potential for punishment.
Hypermasculinity keeps you from opening up
If you are around hypermasculine people, they’re not going to be open to emotional expression. This means you can’t share with them and they can’t share with you. This makes male friendships less purposeful and pleasant. Dangerous in a world
Hypermasculinity isolates you
It isolates you from half the population by othering them, makes you a dick, and prevents you from talking to your bros and opening up. The natural consequence of adopting these behaviors is painful, crushing loneliness. It’s easy to fix if you just get out of the thought loop.
What to do? Health, wealth, romance: play the probabilities
You want to basically get as much wealth as possible without giving up on your health and romantic prospects. This means going hard as hell in your 20s on financial stuff. You look for some sexual experiences along the way, but you spend most of your time looking for the right types of people and getting your mind right. You should be learning how hard money is to make and learning how to be realistic about your spending. None of this has to do with being an alpha male.
Being an alpha male is a cult type of thing. It’s a strange idea that a lot of mostly young guys get sucked in by because it’s easy to imagine it working. Simply adopt a bunch of masculine behaviors, become a successful man. Unfortunately for these types it’s 2025, and the world is becoming a lot more balanced. A lot of women are rising up and a lot of men don’t want to put in the work. Guys who want to live happy lives should learn a certain level of collaboration. Hypermasculinity destroys that ability to collaborate in today’s age, as it’s associated with far too many red flags.
Thanks for paying attention.
