The more unequal and expensive a society is to live in, the better it is to be an economically successful man on the dating scene. This may or may not have been obvious, but I want to write an article on the subject because I think it’s important. A lot of people love writing articles about young men, the state of young men, dating, and culture. Some of it makes sense, a lot of it is tedious. One of the buzzwords is the concept of the “high value man”. Basically, some likeable, reasonably well-off guy who is able to attract a lot of women, in theory. In practice, guys making six figures (in America) definitely seem to have better experiences. Most guys 25 and under can’t hack it. Even if they’re working hard, they just don’t have the skills to get a super high paying job or start a business. If you’re in your early to mid 20s and not from a well-off family, you probably barely have any money at all. It’s a generational thing, and pretty much everyone in the younger age groups is suffering. This is for a variety of reasons, but the point is that this environment is ripe for the breeding of high value men. You see, money doesn’t buy you much besides better healthcare in today’s world, and doctors aren’t God. Unless you’re planning on becoming a multi-millionaire who can afford a private plane, you probably won’t see a ton of value in getting rich. Perhaps traveling to see your family, if you’re all spread out. So basically, women care about men having lots of money because they’re super broke. Men feel insecure about how much money they have because they’re super broke. “High value” men get a (larger) pick of the litter than they otherwise would because the environment has gotten weird.
When society is unequal, the wealthy can spend much more freely
This is obvious, but you need to live in multiple countries to see how it plays out. When wealthy people own businesses that are entrenched, they don’t give a shit. They own businesses that are hard to outcompete and make so much more than the average person that they blow a lot of money on frivolities. Houses and condos are frivolities. When few young guys live alone, the young rich guys can do whatever they want. They have a huge advantage. The ability to pay rent makes a huge difference. Where I live, the dating scene isn’t terrible, and that’s because nearly every young person is poor.
Societies where prices are low are good for all men
This is really what you want. You want low prices, low nominal GDP, and a decent bit of wealth inequality. You don’t want it to be too easy for everyone to get rich, but you don’t want it to be impossible for broke men to get in on the economic action. This way people are more focused on having a good time than they are each other’s pocketbooks.
Societies with high wealth inequality have low prices
When companies gain strong footholds, prices tend to drop provided there is proper antitrust infrastructure. It’s only logical. The rich guys want to improve on their rates of return incrementally, without risking their fortunes. When you have a large oligarch type class, prices lower as they compete amongst each other. Staples get more expensive as demand for those increase. People in the “global south” become increasingly wealthy as money gets spread across the world. All of this means increasing levels of wealth inequality globally. It also means that most things will get less expensive, except the things you need. I’m sure you already see it. The world has a lot of wealthy people, and they want the staples to get more expensive. But that also means increased competition. In the extreme long run, there will be a race to the bottom for both wages and prices. This is already happening on a global scale, I’m sure you can see it. It’s hard to get traction on YouTube. Freelance jobs don’t pay a lot. If you’re living in the USA, regular work is probably more lucrative than anything you can do online. Canada and the UK are in an interesting position. Both freelancers and salarymen appear to be suffering in these places.
What can the average guy do?
The average guy should be doing his best to be politically involved. You don’t need to be a high value man to be happy or attract women. You just need to be living in a reasonable country, and be doing better than average. You can do better than average by working harder than average and/or doing something more high skilled than average. It might seem unfair that you need to be better than average to live a truly good life, but average honestly isn’t very impressive. Not everyone is smart, not everyone is dedicated, and not everyone is even able bodied. If you’re healthy and interested in earning an above average income, you can do it. If all you want is a good dating life, you want to fight for the little guy. Go to a low cost of living area, save your money, work out, socialize. You’re looking for a low cost of living area that actually has women. This can be tricky in countries where attractive young women flock to major cities.
Move to the most equitable society you can
Unless you’re a (actual) dwarf or super ugly, you don’t want to have to waste your time becoming a rich person just to be able to afford a house. I might be able to narrowly escape doing it, but that’s because I spent a lot of time learning how to become location independent. High cost of living areas are super annoying if you’re a young man. The only upside is that if you can master a high cost of living area by your mid to late 20s, you can leave that area flush with cash.
Smart men have children later (but have more)
Source here. This generally means that having kids is connected to the acquisition of resources. Get to the point where you’re earning more than the average man and have more saved. You won’t regret it when it comes to your dating options. If you’re less interested in a high flying lifestyle, try and save as much as you can when you’re young. Those resources will come in handy when you want to have children. Be smart. Stay focused and work hard. Enjoy the privilege of a family later on in life.
The only reason this high value man stuff matters so much is because people are struggling to live. I’ve seen it myself. I’m young, and I live in a poor country. It can be quite the grind to achieve a salary that not many North Americans would consider high. Men with money have their way with women, if they want to. It’s because there’s a lot of income inequality. It does weird things to the human mind. If people make sure to vote for the right policies, it might be possible to limit or fix this income inequality. Otherwise, we’re going to have to get used to a world in which being “high value” matters more and more. I’m optimistic that population decline in the developed world will do a lot to fix the issues we have with both income inequality and voting patterns. The world is becoming a better place, even if the process is slow, awkward and painful. Either way, if you want to have a good life, go for a low cost of living, and fight for a more equitable society. The world is wealthy enough to support all of our needs. It’s just that the money isn’t being distributed evenly.
Thanks for paying attention.
