I’m not someone who’s incredibly feminist. I think women deserve all their basic rights. Women should be able to drive, work, and do all the things that men enjoy doing. I like to think that I’m not sexist, and don’t underestimate people either. While I think that there have been some issues with the way the message of feminism has been delivered, I also think that many men have overreacted with all their Red Pill drama. Patriarchy wasn’t that good for men, and dismantling it has a lot of benefits for us too, not just women. Here’s why I think you should think twice before blindly railing against feminism.
Men have to do less work
Now that women are in the workforce, we simply have to do less. We don’t need to put as many hours in, we don’t need to do grueling jobs we hate, and we don’t need to earn as much money. This has shown up in ways that we don’t always discuss as a society. Notice how few men are in the military? How more and more women are joining? How a lot of young men are choosing to work random jobs or in media, over the grueling blue-collar ones that are often in demand? This is because they don’t have families to support, generally speaking. The ones that do can choose jobs/careers/industries that they enjoy. This was even more true during the 2010s, where a bit of scrolling LinkedIn could introduce you to profiles with jobs titles that are pretty much entirely fake.
If women stayed at home, all workers would be male
This is what a lot of the guys who complain about how easy women have it miss. If all the women who are “taking jobs” or “excluding (them) from the dating market” were to return home, all the workers working crappy jobs would still be men. Nothing about their lives would improve, because they would still be at the bottom of society. Giving them a woman to hang out with would just make both them and the women miserable. Successful men would still be winning, but they would have to work twice as hard now.
Smart guys go 50/50
It makes absolutely no sense to date a broke woman. But a lot of guys want to have control over women, or they want someone who’s really hot. Because they don’t have confidence in their natural ability to attract women, they just do what’s easiest: try to get money. You’re going to suffer doing this. It’s going to be expensive. You’re going to spend a lot of time working hard, and your game is going to be trash compared to that of someone who has had normal social development and a normal career. Just let go of the patriarchal family. It doesn’t make sense, unless you literally think you’re more productive than every single woman out there (you’re not).
Men don’t have to get married
You just have to attract her and be willing to coparent if you have kids. There’s no societal pressure to get married, because it’s no longer something women feel the need to do. You won’t feel shamed by your friends if you chose not to get married. This means that you can hook up with people who you like and find attractive for your whole life. To each their own, and women can support themselves. Don’t be a deadbeat if you have kids, but there’s no need to get married at all.
You can be more well-rounded
Feminism and women in the workforce bring productivity and quality of life up. This doesn’t mean that you should embrace feminist ideas as men, but it’s true from an economic perspective. If you give up on having to take care of someone, you can focus more on becoming a more complete man. Also, if women have money of their own, they’re less likely to choose someone solely for theirs. You see this in the United States, Western Europe, Australia, and Canada, where it takes a ton of money to start attracting women just with money. Why? Because women don’t care. Instead, you can get laid simply by being super jacked and funny. People might think that women are “unrealistic” because they’re picking men who are rich and/or hot. But honestly, it’s just that everyone who’s a winner, male or female, has access to more choices than ever. Very few men put in the work, so things favor us when we start winning, because attractive women don’t have many choices. Letting go of patriarchy lets you focus on your looks, your hobbies, the media you consume, etc. You don’t just need to be a drone that only knows how to make money.
Location, freedom, looks, social skills matter more and more for men
Basically, both men and women will be/are increasingly able to focus on self-actualization. Basically, lifestyle design. This wasn’t possible when tradwives were a widespread phenomenon. Don’t live in boring, miserable, depressing places doing jobs that you don’t enjoy, and you shouldn’t be bothered by anything feminist. Why would it come up? Unless you’re doing something wrong. Basically, now that life is not all about work for men, it’s going to be about being good, happy, and engaged. How it should have been.
It’s easier than ever
Life has never been easier than it is today for humanity. It’s just that people are blind to their advantages, and that modern-day upside can be found in different places than in the past. Modern-day upside isn’t found in some corporate job or in making gazillions of dollars. It’s in living a fulfilling life.
Contributing to “hoeflation” is a choice
A lot of men seem to think that feminism is what is caused “hoeflation”, the phenomenon of women being hard to attract in the modern era due to their increasing standards. I would argue that capitalism, technology, and men’s descision making drives “hoeflation”. Nobody’s forcing you to use dating apps, OnlyFans, or social media. Nobody’s forcing you to hang out with women who use these services either. If you want “hoeflation” to stop, you need to play your part and unplug. Feminists don’t have much to do with this, as far as I can tell.
There’s a lot wrong with how feminists express themselves, especially nowadays. Belittling men online doesn’t work, for example. No man over the age of 25 is focused on that kind of content, so all the “I-hate-men” types do is create more angry people when they post. But working in an office 50–60 hours per week for the sake of housing someone who feels trapped is not the way to live the best life possible. A lot of people who talk about the 1950s and 60s being a good time have no clue what they’re talking about. People, generally speaking, have more choice in life than ever. This doesn’t mean we always make the best decisions, but it means we’re free to live life and create community for ourselves. So, as you can see, the new world offers us a lot of opportunity as men. We just need to look at things with a positive mindset.
Thanks for paying attention.
