In life, one of the most painful experiences isn’t being alone—it’s being surrounded by people who don’t really see you. The kind of company that drains you instead of replenishing you. The kind of conversations that leave you emptier, not fuller. But here’s the truth: not having access to the right kind of human connection doesn’t mean you should deny that you need it.
Too many people confuse isolation with strength. They tell themselves that they don’t need anyone, that being detached is a form of control. But that’s a lie born out of disappointment. It’s what people do when they’ve been around the wrong kind of energy for too long.
The reality is—connection is a human need, not a weakness. It’s how we grow, heal, and stay sane. You’re supposed to crave warmth, trust, understanding, and loyalty. You’re supposed to want to be seen. That doesn’t make you dependent—it makes you alive.
So if you find yourself around the wrong people—people who gossip, misunderstand you, or take without giving—don’t feel ashamed for being there. You’re trying to meet a need that’s real. It’s not about weakness; it’s about hunger. Just don’t let that hunger make you forget what kind of nourishment you actually need.
Being around the wrong crowd doesn’t define you—it just means you haven’t yet found the right environment. Every phase of your life teaches you something about what kind of energy you want to invite and what kind you never want to tolerate again.
So don’t deny your humanity in the name of self-protection. Don’t numb yourself to your own emotional needs. Instead, honor them. Sit with them. Feed them wisely.
Because one day, when you finally cross paths with people who get it—who meet your energy, match your values, and bring peace instead of tension—you’ll realize the only thing worse than loneliness was pretending you didn’t care.
