It’s an almost universal truth that when you set out to achieve something truly ambitious, something that stretches the limits of what seems possible, you’re going to run into a wall of doubt. And not just from strangers, but from the people closest to you.
Most people struggle to believe that you are capable of doing something they aren’t.Think about that for a moment. When you share a goal—whether it’s starting a revolutionary business, publishing a complex novel, or achieving a world-class athletic feat—the person listening can only process that possibility through the lens of their own experience and perceived limitations.
If they’ve never seen it done, or more importantly, if they don’t believe they could do it, their brain defaults to skepticism. It’s less about them doubting you specifically, and more about them protecting their own reality. If you can do something they deem impossible, what does that say about their own choices and limits?
The Doubters Are Your Compass
This isn’t a cynical view; it’s a powerful tool for self-assessment.If you tell your friends and family about your next big move and everyone instantly responds with “That’s a great idea! You’ve got this!”—take a step back. You might be aiming too low.If your goals don’t generate a healthy amount of friction, questioning, and even outright disbelief, they probably aren’t ambitious enough to truly change your life. If you don’t have a ton of doubters, you probably don’t have high enough expectations.The really big, impactful goals—the kind that reshape your career, finances, or life trajectory—should sound slightly ridiculous to the average person. They should evoke a response that is a mix of intrigue and fear.
Small Goal: “I’m going to start running a mile a day.” (No doubters, this is achievable for almost anyone).
Big Goal: “I’m training to qualify for the Boston Marathon next year.” (Hello, doubters!)
Small Goal: “I’m going to save $100 a month.”
Big Goal: “I’m quitting my job to launch a niche software company that can generate passive income to cover my living expenses within 18 months.” (Prepare for the side-eye.)The initial doubt you face is often an unintentional compliment. It means you’ve set a target that resides in a territory most people don’t dare to venture into.
Embrace the Noise
So, the next time someone laughs, or gives you the “Are you sure about that?” look, don’t let it derail you. Recognize it for what it is: a sign that you are on the right track.
Use the doubt as fuel. Let it be the quiet confirmation that your expectations are high, your vision is bold, and your ambition is worthy of the extraordinary effort it will require.
The goal isn’t to prove them wrong; the goal is to prove yourself right. And when you finally achieve that “impossible” thing, watch how quickly the doubters become your biggest fans. They might still struggle to believe they could do it, but they’ll definitely believe you did.What is the one goal you have that you’re afraid to tell people about because you know they’ll doubt you?
