When you’re on the come up, the main thing you want to do is keep your mind focused, and surround yourself with winners, or at least people who support you and your vision. In my experience, the worst type of person you can be around is an insecure person. Insecurity is a bit like a virus. It spreads a lot and it spreads easily. I spent a lot of my younger years hanging out with insecure people, and oftentimes find myself cutting off others. Identifying insecure people and avoiding them is a good way to improve your mental health.
I have a complicated relationship with being insecure. On one hand, I can be a bit obtuse. A lot of insults roll off my back or go over my head because I don’t feel like they apply. On the other hand, I’ve dealt with really evil people in the past and almost fallen victim to their nonsense. This means I don’t trust people very easily, and in the past I was very prone to thinking people are racially biased. Nowadays I worry a lot less, and life is a lot better. I don’t feel as insecure as I did in the past, because I realize now that I was living in a shitty environment. So I keep working on myself, and I avoid insecure people. I’m not a psychologist, but I’ve found that insecure people are often quite similar. They all do the same thing, from what I’ve seen.
Insecure people try to equate themselves to you
If someone is insecure, they’re going to need to feel like someone is in the same boat or worse off. If you’re a short, nerdy, or passive person who actually focuses and does the right things, you’re probably going to find a lot of people trying to say they’re like you.
Insecure people try to put you down
This will usually happen when insecure people realize that they aren’t the same as you or anybody who makes them feel less than. Insecure people attack what they find to be different and what they don’t understand. Put downs of any kind are usually indicators of insecurity.
Insecure people try to attack your morals
This is usually the last step in the “I-made-friends-with-an-insecure-person” cycle. Moral attacks will come from people who you make feel bad or confused. They might twist your words, grossly misinterpret jokes, or even put words in your mouth in order to satisfy their agenda. It might feel like it doesn’t matter what you say. When people attack your morals when you’ve already expressed them, it’s time to bounce. I’m not sure what causes people to do this, but my hunch is its projection. A lot of people have dark thoughts, and struggle to imagine people doing things the honorable way. I prefer to be around people who are happy and morally upstanding. Period. You probably should too.
Insecure people don’t take risks beyond what they understand
The last thing an insecure person wants to do is fall on their face. I see this a lot with older women and black people. Getting them to take risks and do something different is like pulling teeth and damn near impossible. The only risks many of them are willing to take come from a mentor or a celebrity. Shout-out to whoever got young minorities to start being entrepreneurs. They’ve added a lot to global self-esteem levels.
Insecure people are a massive liability and headache. They tear people down and try to keep everyone close, because they have a crab-in-bucket mentality. Sometimes this is hard to spot, and sometimes you have to put up with it. But you shouldn’t if you don’t have to. Keep away from weak people and stay happy and lucky.
By Rising Current on .
Exported from Medium on November 8, 2024.
