If you live long enough and do enough things, some people are going to dislike you. As a matter of fact, some people might hate you. No matter what happens, you’re always going to be in the wrong to somebody, somewhere. This is why it makes no sense to focus on being liked. Focusing on what’s good, useful, and kind will get you a lot farther than being liked.
Your actions will be misinterpreted
Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. The amount of time that people dedicate to thinking about random moments can be pretty insane. They’re not thinking about you. They’re thinking about how you made them feel. Sometimes people just have on “shades” that show them the wrong view of you.
People won’t always take responsibility
If you’re involved in an argument or confrontation that requires one side to take responsibility for actions that are silly or embarrassing, you may find yourself in a predicament where someone knows they’re in the wrong but villainizes you. This is probably the most common example of being disliked unjustly.
People will have ulterior motives to demonize you
Sometimes it benefits people both externally and psychologically to demonize you. If they can demonize you, they gain some rewards. Demonizing people isn’t health, but a lot of the time when it happens people feel that they have something to gain.
Neural pathways get reinforced
Once someone decides they don’t like you, it’s pretty much over. They never really change their minds. Even apparent self-analysis will likely fail. Most people revert back to what is comfortable and understood. Aka you being the bad guy. So once someone shows you negativity, cut them out of your life. They won’t change.
Sometimes we just mess up
And we can’t come back from it. This is really, really tricky for a lot of people. People like to think that their choices can help them escape any predicament at any time. This is false. Sometimes we’ve simply messed up. If you’ve made such a gaffe, figure out how to avoid making it again. But there’s nothing you can do about the current one that you’ve made. Accept the consequences and move on.
Don’t accept evil but accept being the villain. When people claim to have something against you, check to see if they’re being logical. If they are, it’s time to change your life. But don’t beat yourself up if you aren’t actually doing evil stuff. Most of the world doesn’t care about petty arguments, and petty arguments never helped anyone make a dime. Accept that you’re going to be the villain in someone’s story and move on with your life ASAP.
Thanks for paying attention.
