There’s a weird push-pull in how people talk about women. It seems that people are quite divided. On one hand, some people act like women are sugar and spice and everything nice. They act as though women are completely naive to the world (until their intuition randomly kicks in). On the other hand, internet manosphere types basically act as if all women are whores who can’t be trusted. I will tell you, I’ve seen some crazy stuff. A lot of women are promiscuous, and a lot of women are liars. If a guy is naive, reasonably well-off, and dating women in the west, he’s in for a lot of trouble. A lot of the women I met were crazy, immoral, and sometimes even dangerous. This isn’t inherent to being a promiscuous woman, but these women simply didn’t know how to act. But most of those women are young, and living in western countries where bad behavior (by everyone) is popularized. The Red Pill people do too much fear mongering about women’s nature. So, I decided to talk about what I’ve seen, and want to give a nuanced take on what I’ve seen.
Are “modern women” promiscuous? Yes, but not really
Women are people. Sometimes they see guys they like. Sometimes guys do things that turn them on. So, like with men, women be promiscuous hinges on how lucky they are, and their ability to seal the deal. Some women really don’t have a ton of sex. Others might cheat. Who knows, it really depends on what’s going on in a woman (or man’s) life. There are too many variables at play. I don’t think most people have the energy to have sex with a lot of new people every year. A lot of people talk a big game, but it isn’t the norm to just be out there hooking up. It’s more that everyone who goes out a lot ends up having some stories.
A segment of the American or Canadian population is quite promiscuous
It’s not as big a group of people as people think it is. But yeah, I’ve met quite a few girls who run through a lot of guys that they find “hot”. I’ve also had some crazy experiences myself. This is a cultural thing though, and you can avoid it. Just don’t go chasing the random hot girl just because she’s hot and live a well-rounded life. You’ll be ok.
Casual sex isn’t the same as having a boyfriend or friend with benefits
It’s really not. Norms around sex and stuff have changed, but if a girl just has one guy in her sex life, I wouldn’t call her promiscuous. She’s not an innocent virgin, she’s having fun. Nothing more nothing less. I think men make a big deal of this stuff when they’re young and/or feel rejected.
Random stuff happens
Sometimes things just work. A normal girl goes home with an attractive guy on a night out. Two people start hooking up after meeting in the smoking area. It’s really, really random. Experiences like these might happen once for a woman. If you don’t have one or two random hookup experiences as a man, you probably aren’t socializing enough. You can be normal looking and have one or two stories.
Social media gives everyone more options
It’s really impossible to know who’s doing what. I don’t live in a culture that’s 100% consumed by social media. It’s here, but people have more important things to focus on. Just try to minimize your interaction with social media and people who use it. A bit of scrolling every once in a while is OK, but it doesn’t make any sense to be on social media a lot, or have friends who use it all the time. Most of the content being posted online is a massive time suck. Produce, don’t consume. Avoiding women who use a bunch of social media is one of the top mental health moves a young man can make.
Why does it matter?
As long as someone isn’t a liar, involved in drugs, or have a mile-long list of former lovers who really cares? If you want a virgin wife, it’s probably cause you’re insecure. It was fun being shown sexual stuff by girls when I was a virgin. We were all kids, but they were younger than me. Having more than 4 to 30 bodies (depending on the circumstances, everyone’s life is different) can get gross, but that’s on a case-by-case basis. Women can have a lot of bodies and be pretty cool. They also usually aren’t looking to trick you either way, not if you’re real. Just don’t be super rich and super oblivious.
So basically, yes, women are as promiscuous if they want to be. If this makes you mad, you live in the wrong region of the world, aren’t making enough money, or don’t have social skills. It’s usually one of those three, if you think deeply. Why else would someone care this much about someone’s sex life? There are lots of people on this planet. You can select for body count if you want, but you should be saying “OK, next” rather than consuming hours of red pill brain rot online. Women are dope when you’re nonchalant, honest, and hardworking; and that’s whether they are nuns, wives, or literal escorts. I write about topics like this because they get traffic and traction, but I think men focusing on female promiscuity is a symptom of mental illness. Just don’t hang out with mentally ill women, and the body counts should be within reason. If you’re Christian and want a virgin, just be non-judgmental. If you’re judgmental every girl will tell you she’s a virgin, or treat you like a dork. If you’re nice (but maintain firm boundaries) to the “hoes”, they’ll be honest with you. Not that the latter group is a large group of people. Most people aren’t sugar babies, pornstars, or even prolific lovers.
Thanks for paying attention.
