“Focus on yourself king.”
Instagram memes can be really depressing if you think about them too deeply. When you log on to that app, it can sometimes feel like you’ve entered an alternate universe, one where women are vapid, mean, and deceitful. While this can be the case sometimes, social media amplifies all the bad things that happen in life, and it can destroy your psyche.
That being said, sometimes women are deceitful and hurtful, and sometimes you really don’t measure up. Whether it’s your fault or a result of toxic circumstances and people, it’s sometimes necessary to take time and focus on yourself. Loneliness can be painful, but solitude doesn’t have to be. If you use your time to yourself effectively, you should be able to “level up”, and create a wonderful life for yourself in the process.
Decide which friends you want to take space from
When we are talking about focusing on ourselves online, we usually mean it jokingly in reference to a woman. But oftentimes when we are simping, it’s because things aren’t going well for us ourselves. Whether or not we want to admit it, we often simp because we feel an emptiness. Is up to us to fix our own problems. Use this time to identify which relationships you might want to take some space from and begin to distance yourself. You don’t have to block them or do anything weird, just take more of an interest in self-care or hobbies than keeping the snap streak going.
Get closer with family.
I could tell you to act aloof in order to get laid more, but to be honest I wouldn’t go that route, and I’m not as I work my way through my mid-twenties. I want a high net worth, and a lot of freedom later on in life. Getting closer with my family has helped me on the journey towards that. I’ve earned a lot of money in my life and made millions.
Find out what you value in life.
The best way to deal with rejection is learning how to find satisfaction in solitude. While you don’t want to take this to an extreme, learning how to stand on your own is important. And if we’re being honest with ourselves, the fact that you’re reading this blog is a solid indicator that you’re struggling to find your footing. When you know yourself and what you value, rejection won’t phase you. You’ll understand that people come and go, and that there’s nothing you can do to control them.
Visualize an ideal future for yourself.
There’s no point on taking time to yourself if your life doesn’t improve. If you’re going to withdraw from society, you should make sure that your life ends up being perfect, or as close to it as possible. You’ll want to write something down. I try to visualize the future. I try to image what I’ll be doing, and how I’ll act. I try to imagine what habits I’ll have. I want my vision of the future to actually be achievable and realistic. For example, I knew that I didn’t want to be drinking alcohol by the age of 25, and I’m not. If you can imagine how you’ll be in a few years, you can make a promise to yourself that you’re quite likely to keep.
Create a plan for making your dream reality.
You want your plan for the future to be simple enough that you can remember it but detailed enough that it’s realistic. When it comes to myself, I would like to 1) start my digital nomad business 2) move to Brazil (undisclosed location) 3) get citizenship 4) get married and start a family. I have a detailed plan on how this is going to happen in my head. It’s coming to fruition, although it’s a been a long road.
Baby Steps
Now it’s time to build yourself, brick by brick. The road will likely be winding. You might get lucky and win without any hiccups. But something usually happens. Keep working hard and you will win. It always pays off in the long run.
