I was a late bloomer. I definitely wasn’t always handsome as a young man. As a high schooler, I was short, skinny, and unattractive when it came to sex. I gradually become more handsome over time, and now I’m doing really well when it comes to being able to attract women. I’m from a poor country, so I focus more on the work that I have to do (as of right now), but I’m doing ok. I have had multiple hookup situations where the woman has approached me, and a couple where I haven’t even had to speak. I’m not saying that I’m a God on Earth, but I get a decent amount of validation. The good thing about having grown up being less attractive is that I’ve waited for validation. So I feel like now that I’ve been getting it for years, I’m sufficiently handsome to be able to tell you what the clues are that you’re a handsome man.
Women tell you
The easiest way to know if you’re handsome is if women tell you. If they think you’re handsome, they’re going to tell you. You’re going to be surprised at how clear they are. They will exclaim it and make you feel good about yourself.
Random men tell you/want to be around you
You’re going to have male groupies, basically. People treat attractive people better. They also idolize them and listen to everything they say. If you feel a strange male cult forming around you… might be because you’re better look than average. A lot of men might even buy you drinks, offer their female friends (even girlfriends, which is cringe), or comment on how you’re taking all the women. Yeah, you look good.
Men give fake compliments
This is jealousy. Jealousy always comes from wealth and women if it’s male on male. So, you’re either richer or more attractive than they are.
You can feel the eyes staring at you
This depends on how perceptive you are. If you’re handsome, you’re going to feel like you can’t nullify your presence around women. They’re going to look, and you’re going to notice. If you’re an introvert like me, it’s going to make you uncomfortable. That’s going to drive them crazier.
Older women become extremely forward
If you can’t hookup with women as old as 60, you’re not as cute as you think you are. Not saying you need to take them up on the offer. But women of every age group should be hitting on you.
Women do weird/crazy stuff around you
This is an underrated one. Extreme beauty makes people do weird stuff. If women act crazy around you, and the attention isn’t totally negative, it may be because they like the way you look. That being said, don’t chase crazy women. As a man, you’ll always be made to look like the crazy or evil one if there’s any kind of issue.
Almost every woman will ask if you want them
No seriously. It’s a different world where I’m at. A lot of interactions that I have turn sexual, for no reason. Most women offer their numbers. If not most, it must be north of 10%. I usually get hit on if I go outside. It’s hard to keep track.
You have to stop yourself from becoming entitled
You’re going to have some experiences that make you feel like the word “no” doesn’t exist if you’re truly handsome. This is really when you’re in the upper range of physical attractiveness, not just “handsome” or “cute”. But consent and being a good person matter in the long run.
The difference between cute and really handsome is vast
When you’re good looking and in the right place (racial preferences tip the scale at this level) or a universally handsome guy, you’re gonna have a vastly different experience from guys who are “7.5” and below. Everyone can get a woman to like them. But you know when you’re really handsome. Reality just starts to operate completely differently.
You can see how banging 200–1000 women in a lifetime is possible
Not saying you should execute. But the sheer volume of women you meet will freak you out. You’ll realize that for comitted people, sleeping with 100+ women is nothing. To be clear, my body count is well below 100. But my “best month” was like 11 women or some obscene number like that. And I don’t really go outside much. I’m an introvert.
You attract women who don’t speak your language/or just generally without speaking
If you can’t do this, you might still be handsome, because it’s pretty tricky. But pulling with eye contact and body language alone is possible if you’re hot.
Fashion doesn’t matter
You dress bummy and still attract women. They overlook stuff that you think should be obvious.
You stop caring about how your girl looks
You start wanting a real companion. Mainly because you realize that if one handsome guy can hit it, so can the next handsome guy. Being a handsome guy is easy. You just exist. Women who just chase handsome guys are kind of icky, the same way men who love escorts are (but way less exploitative, of course).
Your face matters more than your muscles
This is one unfortunate reality of life. Being strong, big, and in shape are good. But women look you in your eyes. Your face matters. Having a good body makes your face look better. But spend time optimizing your hair and teeth. There are big gains to be made here.
So basically, in this article, I’ve probably explained to you indirectly why as a man, you aren’t as handsome as you think you are. This is going to be true for 90–99% of men. Being actually handsome is a different reality, and it’s hard not to get a head full of hot air if you’re being treated as such. I personally place no value in looks. I think skills and money matter way more for creating a good life. So, if you’re gassed up about looks realize you’re probably not as attractive as you think you are and that it doesn’t matter. This way you’ll focus on your looks, health, and hygiene while also remaining down to Earth. Regardless of whether you’re naturally handsome or not, a decent routine can keep you in the “7” range. So, who cares? Assuming you’re fun to be around. Being handsome is dope, but it’s not everything. Focus on health long term.
Thanks for paying attention.
