Nowadays, the internet is filled with videos of people looking to show off their cold approaching skills. Most of these people have one goal in mind. They want you to buy their course. As a result, they go around, discreetly wearing cameras and getting girls’ numbers. It works pretty well for them, and they get a ton of traffic. Talking to girls is the cool new thing, and a lot of people want to learn how to speak to women. Young men are more inundated with porn than ever, but also simultaneously much more isolated. It can be a very painful feeling, seeing women and not knowing how to make them yours. This is why cold approaching is vital and necessary skill for young men to master. But once it’s mastered, all men should be sparing in their cold approaching. Sexual discipline makes society better.
When women get cold approached too much, they get jaded and irritable
If you cold approach the same woman twice, you’re going to piss her off. If the same women gets cold approached by 100 guys per year, she’s probably going to get a bit tired of men. This is why a lot of super beautiful women are super harsh with men. They need to be because men are intense. Realize that every unnecessary cold approach you make is a net drain on society.
A lot of women want lasting relationships, which means meeting too many new women is selfish
Now obviously, being selfish can be ok within reason. If you want to play the field and some random woman wants you to settle down just because she exists, it’s OK to do the selfish thing. If you’re looking to wreak havoc for its own sick, you’re just hurting people. A lot of women do want a friend with benefits who’s at least a real friend. Don’t disappoint by meeting too many women and letting them down. This can be tough, but the best way to avoid doing it is to become attractive and introverted, in my experience. That way you can “have” as many women as you want, without needing to create drama for yourself or other people. Once you’ve mastered cold approach to the point that you can get laid while being introverted, you can stop. You’re just one person; there’s a limit to how many people’s attention you can retain.
If you cold approach women and don’t follow through, you ruin it for the next guy
And if the next guy ruins it enough, the next guy will eventually be you. There is a limit to how many women you can give your care and undivided attention to. Cold approaching women and getting a lot of numbers for no reason might be an ego boost, but you aren’t helping the dating market by doing it long-term.
Have the right circle of friends is what makes the biggest difference
It sounds cliche, but it’s true. Being around the right people is the best way to increase your quality of life, along with the quality of your dating life. If you have a good circle of friends, a breakup barely matters. If you have bad friends, even the fieriest relationship will end up making you miserable. Once you learn how to cold approach, you want to spend time curating your environment. Curating your environment will also help the right women approach you. Shared interests lead to some of the best friendships.
Overall, you should only cold approach when someone’s exactly your type
And that’s what cold approach is for. It’s for meeting the right woman when the circumstances aren’t. Doing too much of it isn’t good, especially when you get really skilled at it. This is the paradox of the situation. The more you do it, the better you get, and the better you get, the less you should need it. There’s no downside to chasing women in an appropriate manner when you’re young. So that’s the time to learn cold approach. Don’t listen to the people telling you to hustle and grind. That starts when you’re older than 21. Burn a bit of time learning how to talk to girls. That way, you can be sure to approach when you see that beautiful model that you like.
Once you get good at cold approach, the floodgates open
This is the main reason you shouldn’t waste too much time on this. It’s really easy to master cold approach. All you have to do is learn how to make a great first impression. But going too far down this road really only teaches you that, plus maybe a bit of sales. There are few transferrable skills, and you’re just teaching yourself to be a conman if you waste time on this.
More women = more problems
This is unfortunately true. If you’re looking at meeting a lot of women, you’re introducing a lot of random people in your life. This brings the potential for a lot of random problems. Everything from pregnancy scares to false rape accusations, to other jealous men. These things might be rare normally, but when you expose yourself to a lot of women, you make it possible for the wrong ones to get access to you. Nip it in the bud by keeping a small circle.
Nowadays, people are afraid of cold approaching. It’s a bit of a lost art. It makes sense. Women are more respected, and men have been forced to learn to have more respect and boundaries than in the past. But that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t learn how to do it. The Metoo movement was intense when it first started, but I think societies are finding a healthy middle ground. Don’t be afraid to talk to women. Spend time socializing with them and improve your life. Just learn a bit of restraint once you get it together, it could save your life.
Thanks for paying attention.
