In my experience, there are a lot of people who have a bone to pick with the opposite gender. A lot of people are in denial of this fact, regardless of whether they are male or female. Stereotyping is seen as bad in our current society, despite it being a natural human reaction to experience certain patterns of events. Western society also puts sex and sexual prowess on a pedestal, so there’s nothing worse than being labeled a cat lady or an incel. In reality, we’ve all had bad experiences in life, and they mark us for life. A lot of women hate men and a lot of men hate women. Since I’m a man, I’ll focus on the men who hate women, and give both men and women pointers on how to spot them. Whether you choose to avoid these people or help them out of their rut is up to you. But spotting them is half the battle. So, these are four red flags you can use to spot a guy who hates women, besides having outwardly misogynistic views.
Never had female friends
In better times, I would have said any man who doesn’t have female friends needs to be watched. But, we’re going through a bit of a loneliness crisis, and some regions of the world are filled with toxic women. That being said, if a man has never had female friends, they probably hate women. I’m nowhere near being a bleeding-heart liberal, and I’ve had plenty of platonic friends who are women. Statistically speaking, there must be some woman that any given man can hang out and get along with. If someone’s been on this planet for twenty to forty years and has never had a friend of the opposite gender, they probably have a major issue with the opposite gender.
Poor relationship with their mothers/grandmothers
I was guilty of this for a while, so I know. When someone has a distorted perception of their own mother, it becomes hard for them to view women positively. Whether or not we’re aware of it, our moms and grandmothers are what we consider the blueprint for how women should be. A bad relationship with our parents leaks out subconsciously. A lot of parents in North America were terrible examples to their children. If you look at data on drug use and underage drinking, it seems like the ones that weren’t deadbeats were verbally abusive, neglectful, and failed to teach their children self-love. As a result, a lot of Millennial and Gen Z people have jaded views on the opposite gender. That being said, random people aren’t our parents. If someone has a bad relationship with their mom, they’re going to be misogynists unless they’re totally self-aware. And even then…
Too much casual sex
This might seem like a weird one because the common wisdom is that in order to seduce women, you need to be able to like them and get along with them. This is only true if the guy isn’t a sociopath. Sociopaths are able to manipulate people, fake emotions, and trick people. All without feeling guilty. A lot of people are born sociopaths, but trauma can also cause people to become sociopaths. A lot of womanizers (at the extreme end, ie people who’ve slept with more than 100 women before their mid-twenties) are people who are heartbroken and have now become sociopathic. Most of the people I know who had a lot of casual sex when younger let go of that lifestyle by the age of 23 or so. If you’re an incel on a self-improvement journey, make sure you don’t swing to the other end of the pendulum, because that’s a recipe for a different kind of sadness.
Never beefs with men
Some people, like myself, don’t get along with anybody. I don’t care who you are. When I’m pissed off, I’m pissed off. I’ve gone to 3rd world countries and flown off the handle when I shouldn’t have. I’m not some big tough guy, I’m just legitimately unhinged. I have smoke for everybody, but I’ve also noticed some people only smoke for women. I would avoid these people like the plague. I’ve had some pretty bad experiences with women and can’t really imagine myself reaching this point, even if I’m pissed off. If you’re a man, don’t let this kind of energy rub off on you. At best you’ll embarrass yourself, at worst you’ll get yourself beat up by real men.
This completes my non-exhaustive list of traits that are found in men who hate women. I could be wrong about what I’ve seen, but I don’t think I am, given my experiences with internet trolls, incels, right-wingers, and womanizers from many different countries and walks of life. Some of these people are fixable. Others are too lost in self-pity and rage to be helped. Either way, now you know how to identify them. Proceed as you wish.
