One thing I’ve noticed as a teenage boy and young man going through life is that nobody cares about you. This is dependent on your family and the culture in which you were raised. But I feel comfortable saying that if you were raised in an America-like place, people generally don’t care about you as a man. I suspect the same might be true for women, but according to pop psychology women “have better social supports” in place than men. Anyone who’s met modern young women knows that this isn’t the whole truth, but I’ll leave that to them. I honestly think young women are more mentally ill and suffer more than pop psych feminists let on, and I mean that without malice. But again, I’ll focus on why as a man, the cultural reality is that nobody cares and what to do about it.
You’re the villain
People are automatically trained to view you as sexist, violent, and an oppressor. People will tell lies about you and claim that you’re “scary” or “violent” if you’re annoyed with them. This is doubly true if you’re a man of color. People in the West have been trained to have a strange view of oppression. Everything is group identity. It doesn’t matter if you’re a white person born in 1999. Black people need reparations. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man born in 2002. Women didn’t have credit cards until 1980. You’re an oppressor and a beneficiary of privilege if your ancestors had privilege.
It might sound like I’m being paranoid but check this out. This kind of stuff is the norm in the United States and the UK, and it would also be in Canada if their justice system wasn’t so beneficial to the accused. People aren’t exactly out to get you, but you’ll be made to be the villain fast if it’s possible. That’s because right now, society is all about not needing men, and righting the previous wrongs of men. None of it is for your benefit, and you should be aware of that if you aren’t. If your family is left-leaning, odds are they also believe this stuff to a degree. This means that as a young man, a lot of their advice to you will be designed with women in mind. There’s nothing wrong with being considerate, but this outlook will skew your decision-making if you adopt it, as I don’t think the average man factors much into the average woman’s decision-making. It doesn’t matter what you want or believe. I’m a solid centrist who has pored over stats, data, and social science papers. I’m still a “sexist”. Whatever. Ignore these people and move on. Interacting with them is of no use because they’re hysterical, and likely struggling with other issues. This leads me to my second point.
People don’t care about your mental health
People only care about men’s mental health because it’s beginning to affect the economy. That’s the only reason why. People don’t even care about boys’ mental health. I say that as someone who’s dealt with the mental health system as a child. People just want you to shut up. They’ll put you on pills, punish you… everything besides listening and caring.
This actually isn’t a sexist thing. Women attempt suicide more than men. They just get put on pills and are more willing to suffer than men are. This is a positive thing in the workforce, where attention to detail and conscientiousness matter. When men don’t like the way they’re living, they take themselves off the map. So right now, we’re living in a dynamic where a lot of depressed women (along with people who aren’t depressed) see men going through mental health issues as weak. They don’t care about you, and because the whole society is mentally ill, the problem will never be solved. If you think this isn’t true, just look at the men’s mental health crisis that is supposedly going on. A lot of lip service has been paid, but what has been done? Not much, if anything. We’re still using the same ineffective drugs and therapy to treat men with mental illnesses. We act as though men are defective because women take better to these treatments. We also relegate all-male depression to not getting laid, because sex and sexuality is the only things most people in the West value anymore. It’s stupid and insulting and you’re not delusional for realizing how crazy it all is. Depression is barely a thing in my new country, and that’s in part because people in my new country are less stupid than this. But this isn’t stupidity, it’s outright neglect. They don’t care. They aren’t malicious about not caring, but they don’t care and that’s why the problem persists. Which leads me to the solutions.
Be strong minded
My only regret in life is not striking out on my own sooner. My life really improved once I started doing what I had a hunch was right. Half-listening to my elders led me to a life of purposelessness and addiction. If I had dedicated myself to moving to Southeast Asia or Latin America at 18, I would have saved myself a half-decade of bullshit, and I would probably be married with kids at this point. Drug addiction almost got me in trouble, but every professional or business-related hunch I’ve had ended up being correct. If I had listened to myself, followed my own advice, and had supportive parents I would have made my first million by age 18, just from cryptocurrency alone. I was also onto blogging way before the Covid pandemic. If I had started back then and been consistent, I would likely be a famous writer. Youth, self-doubt, depression, and addiction stopped me from taking action. I won’t let that happen again.
The upshot: do whatever you want
As a man, you only have one job. Stay alive and stay out of jail. After that, you’re free to do whatever you’re capable of doing. This means that the world is your oyster. I’ve been doing whatever the fuck I please since about 2017, and it got dicey for a bit, but now I have 0 regrets. I don’t have a Bachelor’s degree yet, but I know how to make money online in two different ways. I’ve figured out how to bring my net worth up a decent bit, and in about 2 years, I’ll be in the top 10% of asset holders my age in my country. That’s impressive because even though I was raised in the United States, I began my career overseas. I’m in my 20s, so the fun will begin when I reach my goals. As far as knowledge goes, I learned far more “screwing around” than I did in any public school. I have real skills now, and my digital footprint is expanding, although this is the result of years of hard work and dedication. Once I make it to the upper middle class, I’ll be able to take my foot off the gas and focus on human connection and community service. I just need to ensure that my comfortable life outside of the West is guaranteed before I shift my focus.
Doing what you want doesn’t mean walking all over people or committing crimes, as I stated previously. But it does mean being ruthless. Don’t like your country? Move. Think your tax money is being misspent? Set up an offshore corporation and donate to causes you believe in. Think some foreign girl is cute? Date her. As long as it’s consensual who cares? Vote with your feet, effort, and dollars. The world is a huge place, and it’s becoming more interconnected by the day. Take advantage of this and pit people and countries against each other for maximum return. Getting multiple passports allows you to do this even better, which brings me to my final point…
Life pro tip: leave “the West”
If the West for you includes countries like Trinidad and South Africa, you can stay. But the US, UK, and Canada… aren’t places for human beings. Having lived in 2 of these three countries and moved, I would rather be middle class in my new country than wealthy in my homeland. Get your money and fly away and you’ll see what I mean. I’ve made better friends in 4 years of being a workaholic hermit in my new country than in 15+ years living in “the West”, and I wasn’t a loner in the West. When it comes to the cost of living, things are way cheaper, even in English-speaking islands like St. Lucia and Trinidad. If you leave the English-speaking world and have skills, having a family in your 20s is possible. Your money goes further, and the people are nicer.
So yeah, life sucks because nobody cares. But life is also awesome because nobody cares. You’re only responsible for yourself and your kids in this world. So don’t worry. Go live your best life and be happy. It’s a big world, and once you’re making money you can access a lot of it. Disappear, live a private life, and have fun! That’s what I’m in the process of doing.
By Rising Current on .
Exported from Medium on November 8, 2024.
