I have a pill for you, and it’s probably going to be a difficult one to swallow. If you’ve been reading my content, you know that I’m all about avoiding toxicity and not getting wrapped up in drama and vengefulness. This has served me well in life, and I’ve always regretted the times I didn’t follow my own advice.
In order to avoid becoming vengeful, you need to accept that good things are going to happen to bad people.
They’re going to get hired, they’ll get promoted, they’ll fall in love, they’ll get married. Some bad people you know might end up getting fabulously wealthy and famous. Disagreeable people make more money after all.
Accepting that good things will happen to bad people can be frustrating, especially when you’re young. If you’re young and poor, you might see scammers, drug dealers and criminals doing better in life than you. Maybe you know a bad guy who lies a lot to his beautiful girlfriend. Or maybe it’s just the douchy coworker that gets under your skin. How does anyone else tolerate them?
None of this is any of your business.
How someone else’s life goes is up to God and the universe. Your focus needs to be on yourself. I will admit that there are some rare times where revenge is a rational option. Someone may have done something really serious to you. But those situations are exceedingly rare. 9 times out of 10, focusing on making someone else’s life worse only makes yours miserable. You might find yourself getting too involved in a situation. Or worse, getting worked up every time you think about someone. This isn’t good, and you want to make sure it doesn’t end up being the way you live life.
Another, more silent trap is the distraction that comes with seething about evil people. It can look and feel like everything’s fine, but in reality you’re neglecting an area of your life. Nobody on their deathbed says “I wish I had spent more time being mad at that person rather than making memories”. It never, ever happens. So accept life, and move on. Life isn’t fair, and all you can do is make the most of what you have. Just be ruthless about protecting yourself.
Thanks for paying attention.
By Rising Current on .
Exported from Medium on November 8, 2024.
