There’s two main reasons you shouldn’t get married as a man. A lot of people talk about the fact that the “woman can take half”, or that you “become her punching bag” when you get married. These statements might be true. When you get married, you expose yourself in a unique way, and it becomes very possible to see a different side of your spouse from what you knew before you tied the knot. But these aren’t the real reasons you don’t get married. I think I have those boiled down pretty nicely.
Most governments are not good at couple’s counseling
Which means that no matter who ends up being the loser, there’s probably some kind of bull shit rule that you have to deal with. In the US and Canada, it’s that child support is taken from pre tax income. In other countries (and also in the US and Canada), it might be really hard to redeem child support that’s owed from the father. If you have kids, you can’t avoid letting the government into your life. Getting married is opening the door and inviting them in for no reason. If you’re a traditionally minded man and a responsible breadwinner, that’s a total loss.
There’s no such thing as an equal partnership, so tax benefits don’t make sense
If you’re not in an equal partnership, you don’t need to share tax benefits. In today’s world, the global population is shrinking. People need to fight as hard as they possibly can in order to become highly self-reliant. This is a matter of necessity in a low-fertility world.
Men and women are not equal in wartime
In a globalized world, men and women don’t bear the same consequences during times of war. During a war, men are drafted and conscripted. They’re made to join the army and fight. Women can leave and start a new life. So naturally, it makes sense for women to invest energy building whatever country they live in. They derive equal or greater benefits than men and take on less of the downside. Some countries, such as Norway and Sweden, have made it mandatory for women to serve in the military. You can consider getting married there. But as a matter of principle, women who are pro marriage are either blind to or hyperaware of their privilege. Neither situation is ideal.
Watch out for common law marriage
A few countries make it so that if you cohabitate with a woman for a certain period of time, you’re considered married. Try to avoid living in these jurisdictions if you can. If you can’t avoid living in these places, don’t cohabitate with women frivolously. It doesn’t make sense and will just lead to heartbreak and pain if the situation makes it to court. More situations will make it to court as time goes on, even in “poor” countries.
Don’t worry about gold digging if you don’t have any gold to dig
I know that I used examples involving money and child support throughout this article. I think it’s incredibly important to be cognizant of the fact that when you get into a marriage, you are risking your assets, perhaps for no reason. But if you aren’t rich, women probably aren’t digging for your gold. Most people just want to live a good life and get by. If you can just avoid being a simp, you’re going to find yourself in a good place with women. Gold diggers, generally speaking, are going after very wealthy men. You really don’t need to worry too much about them until you’re in the top 10% of asset holders or so. Which brings me to my next point.
Marriage without kids = a status symbol
So basically if you’re looking to get married and not have kids, you’re going after the most hypergamous women. The most status oriented. And giving them what they want on a silver platter with no effort involved. See how well that works out for you.
Weddings are a waste of money and a simp filter
If you’re willing to waste a bunch of money on a wedding in today’s world, you’re probably a simp. If you’re a simp, you’re a gold digger magnet. If you can get a woman to have a kid with you without having a wedding, that’s when you’re in the money.
Look for friends and hot girls, that’s it
Basically, do you want to hit it or not? Do you want to hang out with her, or not? That’s really all that matters. Money will become less and less important as quality of life around the world rises.
Sift if you want kids
Having kids with the right woman is really quite tricky business. A lot of people just aren’t suitable. The modern dating pool is atrocious, and it’s leading to a lot of problems for people on the attractiveness front. Additionally, there’s a lot of mental illness. If you want to have kids that end up being raised properly, you’re going to have to work hard to find the right woman. This means that you’re likely going to need to sift. A lot.
Don’t be a deadbeat
If you’re going to have kids, you’re going to want to take care of them. Generally speaking, this means making as much money as possible when you’re a young man. You want to get to the point where you’re able to live on your own and have any of the mothers of your kids living alone if necessary.
Don’t be totally afraid of common law
If you want to have kids and live in a country with common law marriage, it’s best to bite the bullet if you can cope. Generally speaking, it doesn’t make sense to avoid the government to the point of sacrificing your children’s well-being. Sure, marriage takes a lot of work, and living with women can present risks.
Don’t get married. Build a life and try and keep the government out of your affairs. That’s the (truly) conservative way of thinking, and I think it works well for men. The government is there to help the under resourced, not to manage relationships. Don’t create a scenario in which it can manage relationships just because you’re lonely. Instead, force yourself to create a good life without marriage, and build your family strategically, if family is what you crave. A lot of marriages are born out of economic desperation and loneliness. Solve both of these problems without a woman to live a fantastic life.
Thanks for paying attention.
