Having an incel mindset is bad. We all know it’s bad. But many people fall into the incel mindset. It’s easy to see why. The modern world is fairly complicated to navigate. You have to work hard to get much of anything, let alone be able to start thinking about daring if you have a head on your shoulders. But still, I think it’s important to discuss the incel mindset, and why it tends to be so harmful. Let me break it down.
Incels believe it’s all about looks
Looks matter a lot in dating. If you care about your looks and are born lucky, you’ll have a lot of opportunities in dating. But if you’re average looking, earn a good income, and know how to communicate you can attract a lot of women. Incels are lacking in love and their perception of life is skewedSo they think everyone is meaner and more calculating than they actually are. The dating market is ruthless, but people want companions and they aren’t evil. Incels have seen too much rejection and not had enough reassurance against it to think rationally.
Incels have poor social skills by default
A certain percentage of incels are incels in part because they are ugly. But really the most common bottle necks for men are at the hygeine and social skills level. Average looking guys can get laid. Below average looking guys can too. Incels don’t know anything, because they don’t have any social skills after years of having the freedom to live on Earth and integrate a collection of information. They have the worst mindset, it’s inherent.
Incels are often experiencing racial self hate
Incel culture is very North American and European. A lot of people in these countries hold strong biases in favor of white people. Additionally, dating apps are a bit of a disaster for guys who aren’t considered good looking. A lot of young non white guys are goint to struggle on the apps, especially if they haven’t figured out how to take pictures. Racial self hate doesn’t help anyone. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy, because it dictates that you view yourself as unable to win. A lot of the time, if you change the world, people’s preferences change. This applies to both men and women. The psychology is just different.
Being an incel will destroy you
You won’t necessarily shoot up a school or hurt people. But being an incel won’t benefit your life positively at all. You won’t self improve to the extent you should. You’ll miss a ton of shots in life, because you won’t take them. Living this way has the potential to corrode you from the inside, and you may find yourself suffering from regret in the long run. I wouldn’t want to be an incel. You shouldn’t either.
Only you can change your mindset
Basically, you need to change your mindset to wanting as much as you can get out of life. You have to let go of preconceived notions about women. You have to do your best to not going to get rejected on the basis of hygeine. If that stuff isn’t your priority in the short term then just don’t spend a ton of time talking to women until you can get yourself sorted out. Work on your body. Put yourself in a position to get positive reinforcement when you interact with women. You might not be a huge “player”, but things should change for you.
Don’t fall into the incel mindset. It will ruin your life, badly. People who become incels tend to suffer long and hard. Their behavior alienates others. The good news, is all you need to do is start thinking differently. It’s actually that simple. Thanks for paying attention.
