We live in a world of extraordinarily high standards. It doesn’t matter who you are. You’re probably a victim. In today’s world, everyone thinks that they deserve everything, despite not having done much or been born special. I think I’m a bit guilty of this in some ways too, so I’m not just ranting. Something about being humans makes us narcissists. A common form of narcissism in the reproductive realm is wanting a wealthy partner. It’s more common among women to want a rich guy, but I’ve come across some delusional men too. Wanting a wealthy partner is understandable. It’s hard to make money and we all want to live a good lifestyle. But being a gold-digger isn’t the way to go. And I’m not saying that because I have any wealth to protect. As far as things go, I’m totally average. Here’s why I wouldn’t become a gold digger.
Wealthy people are rare
And they have a lot of options. If you’re going to get with a wealthy person, you have to be lucky enough to bump into one and have something special. You’re probably also going to want to be attracted to them. This is rare unless you live in a few specific location. Setting your sights on a wealthy partner is a losing battle. You’re highly likely to end up disappointed. A lot of the people who are trying very hard to look rich aren’t.
Wealthy people have a ton of options
This applies to both men and women. There are a lot of hungry people out there. A wealthy person who takes care of themselves has their pick of the litter. This can lead to some very bad behavior. Partnering up with people like this is not something I would advise. They can drop you at any moment, and they might become physically or psychologically abusive. It’s not a good idea to look for a meal ticket in a random person. You’re giving them power. Which brings me to my final point about why you shouldn’t be looking for wealth in a partner.
Make your own money, control your own destiny
This is the reality of life. If you can’t make your own money, then you can’t control your destiny. When it comes to making money creating wealth, you’re going to have to apply yourself for a few years if you’re starting from scratch. But once it “clicks”, you’re going to feel incredibly confident. Making your own money
Look for education in women
If you’re a man, you want a woman who is smart enough to know the value of marriage and has the ability to stick to it. The number one predictor of this is education. If you wife or girlfriend has an education, it’s more likely that she can deal with frustration and complex problems. I see this as the only way to hedge in favor of a good marriage in today’s age. Educated women also make more money. That makes life easier.
Look for intelligence in men
Men tend to be distributed at either end of the bell curve. If It were seeking a male partner, I would be looking for the smartest all-around one. I’ve noticed women already do this, even though it’s not obvious. I don’t know anything about gay men.
Physical attraction will matter more
Over the course of our lifetimes, the planet is going to get wealthier and wealthier. Women will be able to do more of their own work and add more to their own lives than in the past. Men won’t be able to get by with just their money. More and more, men are going to have to be someone. Men were never really gold diggers, but I predict that when the global economy truly reshifts, that little trend will also largely end. When it comes to your life satisfaction, being around people you like and are attracted to will matter more once everyone across the globe has more money.
Become skilled and invest in yourself
Right now we’re in a position where the global average workweek is set to get shorter and shorter. If you learn skills and work for a decade, you’ll find that you’re able to outwork more people than you think a decade from now. The world is becoming wealthier fast. If you invest in yourself and become skilled, you’re going to find that you live a better life and are able to surround yourself with better people than if you simply looked for a rich partner.
The idea of being around rich people can seem very appealing. You want to live a good life, and it’s easier to be around the right people than it is to work. But as things are going, work is becoming easier and easier. You don’t have to do much to be wealthier than about half of all people. Just start a business and do a mediocre job. In the future, things are only going to get better. It might not seem like it right now, but we’re entering an age of abundance. But it will favor the optimistic. Looking for a rich partner only is the same as giving up. Don’t do that. That’s how you waste your life.
Thanks for paying attention.
