I’ve thought a lot about life, mainly because I’ve made a lot of enemies. I know why I’ve made those enemies though. I’m not dumb. I’m an abraisive guy, and I also live very freely. That makes people doubt my intentions, especially since I had a wilder childhood. That being said, I have a four-and-a-half-year long track record of living well, so I don’t really worry much about what people have to say about me. I can be a huge dick, but many people in my position become scammers. I see it in my neighborhood a fair amount. That being said, if you do anything, you’re going to attract haters. I’m pretty sure I attracted my haters because I slipped up. I treated social media like a busy-work job and wrote nonsense. This caused people to dig into my life. The fact of the matter is, that anyone spending a year or more trying to learn about someone and/or their family without being connected to police is a bum. There are pretty much no exceptions to this rule.
The truth of the matter is the vast majority of people are self-absorbed. They want to achieve the optimal life outcome for themselves. If someone is overly focused on you, it’s because they either 1) are dependent on you or 2) are completely unhinged. If you’re a particularly famous person, your haters might live off you. They might be people who work in media or entertainment. They have an incentive to hate you. They get paid for it.
The rest of your most active haters are highly likely to be losers. People who want you to be a bad person, because they have nothing to do and/or feel inferior to others. Having haters can be pretty scary in some ways. When a lot of people are mad at you, it can feel like the world is about to crush you. But the issue is that people are self-absorbed. So, they’ll only really hate you if you’re a danger to society. Otherwise, your haters are going to be jobless, and not focused on anything productive. When I go through my list of active haters, they almost always are losers. The few who aren’t, live in first world countries and haven’t figured out how to optimize. Envy makes people sink into the nonproductive realm with ease.
So basically, nobody who’s actively getting anything done is busy hating in my experience. If you do something particularly distasteful, productive people will distance themselves from you, but hating is absolutely for losers. It doesn’t achieve anything, even though it’s quite satisfying. Getting satisfaction from shitting on others works well when you’re younger, but it’s a drain as you age. Think of all the moms that got caught up in Q Anon. They aren’t exactly haters, but a lot of them were so caught up in their little online movement that they forgot to live. Some of them lost their marriages and families over this stuff.
So basically, the only reason you should ever want smoke with a hater is if you want to sue for defamation, invasion of privacy, personal injury, or emotional distress. Anything else is a waste of valuable mental energy. The reverse is even more true. Don’t be a hater, and don’t get sucked into hater conversations. I found myself hating on a friend of mine, because I perceived him to be yucking my yum. The quality of my work, along with the quantity of my output has improved dramatically since I cut him off.
If you’re doing big things (or anything), you don’t care what other people are up to for reasons besides safety. Once you’re safe from the normie bullshit, you just don’t care. The only three things that matter in life are money, your immediate family, and what you can do to help the world. Anything involving haters is stupid, even if you are completely unlikeable human being.
