One of the hardest things to accept about our current reality is that we live in a winner-take-all, every-man-for-himself world. For many people, it’s hard to accept the hardship and unfairness that comes with daily life. For people like me, it’s about the fact that certain people are “good” to maintain friendships with, and that others aren’t. When it comes to friends, you have to be exceedingly careful. The right friends can make you a better person. The wrong friends can steer you to a life of hardship and misery. If you’re the type of person who’s trying to make something of themselves, the odds are fairly high that you’re going to need to ditch some of your friends at some point. Or at the very least compartmentalize them. You can’t change your old friends. As life goes on, you’ll want to move forward with a variety of interests and hobbies. You’ll meet new people and adopt new attitudes. Don’t expect your friends to change with you.
Where we come from is not where we’re headed
I didn’t grow up in poverty. Far from it. But in many ways, I grew up in a toxic environment. I grew up in an environment where a lot of people were making really bad choices. I also knew a different group of people that were workaholics. Seeking to avoid both of these lifestyles, I made a point of moving to a relatively low cost of living location. This means I will be able to run my online business fairly cheaply. I also am looking to put myself around smart, happy people. I try to maintain a positive attitude and avoid any and all negativity.
Nostalgia is beautiful, but times change
If you have good memories of a time that’s passed, that’s great. Hold onto those and treasure them. Because times change. Not only do times change, but the rate of change is also increasing. If you’re not adapting, you’re going to be left behind.
Give people an inch, they’ll take a mile
You just can’t let people have access to your resources. If you do that, you’re going to find that people are a bit like birds. Eventually they become dependent on you for bread if you offer it. Being used to a certain extent is ok. You want to share back and forth with people. But relationships should be transactional. You should be adding value to people’s lives, and they should be adding to yours. If you’re succeed and you try to help people who aren’t, they’re
Unless you look in the right circles specifically, you’re going to bump into losers
Most people don’t have what it takes to succeed in their careers, and many people have problems in their personal lives. Generally speaking, families have never been less united than in 2025 in the Western World. This means that unless you’re in wealthy areas or niche groups, you’re going to be bumping into a lot of life’s losers. If you want to meet the right people in this world, you need to focus on it. If your sample of friends is random, you’re going to find yourself in a
Some people can’t succeed
Some people don’t have the brain power to succeed. Others don’t have the work ethic. Others might be physically disabled. Other people can’t manage to maintain any relationships. If you’re around these kinds of people, it should be for altruistic reasons only. Be humane when deciding who to leave behind but be aware of when people’s capabilities are being stretched.
Old patterns die hard
If you’re trying to change someone, they might change for a little, or in one aspect. But outside of the specific changes you ask them to make, old habits are going to die hard with most people. Convince that drug dealing friend of yours to stop selling herbs? Well, he might decide to sell untaxed cigarettes if it looks like he’ll avoid jail time for it. That person who was always helping others in school will likely make a good team lead in the future. People change, but often not to their core. Old patterns die extremely hard.
Bringing your “team” to the top is a fantasy
You’re not going to be able to give all of your friends what’s required to have a good life. You also won’t be able to give them all the skills required to have a good life. It’s unfortunate when you see people go down the wrong path. But you can’t stop them. We’re all independent units, and the sooner you understand this, the sooner you stop wasting time and money. Focus on your own skills. Don’t buy into any ideas of professional “families”. Build yourself up first, and then help other productive people.
You are the people you hang out with
You want to be looking for the smart, happy, and wealthy people. If the people you around aren’t like that, then you’re doing something completely wrong. The people you hang out with determine your future. They determine your beliefs. They determine your happiness and moods. If you choose the wrong friend group, you’re going to become an awful, negative person. If you’re in the right friend group, things should work well and easily for you. The right friend group is collaborative and positive.
Don’t be afraid of loneliness
If you’re afraid of loneliness, you’re highly unlikely to win. This is because when you follow the crowd, you’re both less able to be productive, and less likely to be creative. You should be spending a lot of time alone in your late teens or early 20s. This alone time shouldn’t just be spent watching YouTube and jerking off. You should be working really hard, and loneliness shouldn’t scare you at all. If you can create something good and then help others you won’t be lonely in the long run. As long as you aren’t a huge jerk in your personal life.
Change your environment, change your life
I wanted to be in a different environment, so I did all the things required to change my environment. I moved countries, took risks, got a second passport. My friends have changed for the better, and I live a completely different life from what I used to in the past.
Online friends can help each other get money and live good lives
If you have a solid mindset, you can make the right friends online. The internet will bring you the right people if you let it. You just need to put yourself out there and actually post on social media. The more you post, the more likely you are to make a friend. Make sure to engage with and DM people. Talk to other entrepreneurs in your field, along with people who share the same interests and hobbies as you. You would be surprised who you meet.
Being a good person will put you around winners
When you’re the kind of person who does the right thing, good things come your way. This is obviously contingent on effort, luck, common sense, and inner strength. But if you do the right things and focus on the right industries, you’re going to be around winners. You’ll rise to the level of your hard work and leave certain people and negative influences behind. That’s when you’ll meet the right people, those meant to uplift you and help you succeed.
Don’t try to change people who don’t want to be changed. There’s no point. It’s a total waste of both you and the other person’s time. What you want to do is be around like-minded people. People who want to do and be better. In these perilous times, you’re going to want to be around people who are strong and committed to building wealth and solving problems. This is because it’s impossible to know what’s going to happen in the future. The world is in store for an era of prosperity, but the next few years are highly likely to be tumultuous. Choose your friends wisely.
Thanks for paying attention.
