Dating is the hottest topic on the internet, and it’s primarily because nobody is getting laid. People have all day to talk about the sex they’re not having, and the reason for this is twofold. The first, is that a lot of people in the West are downright frustrated. Reader, you know this is true. You don’t spend your days yelling at a camera about the opposite gender if you aren’t frustrated. The second reason dating is such a hot topic is that people are more socially isolated than ever before. Life is expensive, super young people can’t really afford to go out. Might as well livestream, talk some shit, and make some money, right? I think this makes a lot of sense. Young people need an outlet, so they turn to the arenas in life that allow them to get paid. One thing I’ve noticed watching people stream, is that all of this dating stuff runs on men’s limiting beliefs. If American men weren’t programmed to have widespread limiting beliefs about dating, the entire online ecosystem around dating wouldn’t exist. There simply wouldn’t be the money to support it. I think there are 3 limiting beliefs commonly being held by men in dating, and that the adoption of those beliefs is poisoning the entire dating well globally. They’re pretty succinct, and they go as follows.
I’m not attractive enough
A lot of men have this limiting belief, and it’s understandable. Women don’t praise men for their good looks as they perhaps should. For starters, you don’t know what women say behind your back. They might think you’re OK. Especially if they don’t know you, you aren’t obnoxious, and you seem clean. Additionally, women date guys who don’t look perfect all the time. This is the same as if a really attractive guy were to have…any dating history at all. He would probably have dated one or more women who just looked normal. If you look normal, you can date hot girls. People like the average and familiar. This is why many or most people end up marrying those who look somewhat like their parent. If you’re a foreigner or a minority you still pull. You’re just going to have make an effort to get integrated into the culture or have been raised there from birth. Women fawn over some guys for being very good looking, and they usually prefer men of their own ethnic. That’s all it boils down to, and that’s if they’re picking. Overall preferences don’t dictate final choices, and by inserting yourself socially you give yourself a small level of control over her final choice. Most women don’t go and talk the men they find super visually attractive. After high school and college, they should be a non or minimal factor.
I’m not wealthy enough
This one is just stupid. If you’re making the average income in your country, you’re wealthy enough to be dating. Red Pill types and those who are more materialistic love to talk about being in the top 5, 10, or 1% of men in order to attract women. But aren’t real men supposed to be Rennaissance men? This means that they’re well-rounded people, skilled in multiple arenas. What are the odds of being in the top 10% in two realms each? 1%. A guy in the top 50% of people income wise with an average, functioning body? Is in the top 25% of men. Once you understand this, it all makes sense. Most rich guys are dweebs. If you can make it into the top 10% of asset holders for your age within your country, you should never be complaining about women. It doesn’t actually take that much money to make a lasting impression on a lot of ladies. $500 is nothing if you make $200,000 per year. If you have $500, you can definitely create an experience that gets a hot woman to want to be around you in most cities. Men in the top 1% literally have too much money. They get disconnected from reality.
I’m going to get rejected
You are going to get rejected sometimes. As a matter of fact, you’re going to get rejected most of the time, if you’re just shooting your shot randomly. But you get used to it, and there are polite ways of showing interest. Employing those polite methods either verbally or over social media should expand a man’s pool of options while reducing his rate of rejections. If polite ways of showing sexual interest to a woman don’t pop up in your head immediately, then you need to be socializing more. Women are weird. They tend to warm up to people quite well, and also sometimes random things (read, men) catch their eyes and ears. If you make polite, infrequent sexual advances nobody’s going to get mad at you. Infrequent means, actually infrequent. You shouldn’t find yourself asking out the same girl every week, two weeks, or month like a stalker. Just don’t approach women pretending you’re interested in Broadway and fashion, or by hovering around their friend group for no reason in particular. You’re a man, so unless you have hobbies in common, odds are you’re just trying to get to know her in the other sense. If you’re genuine things should be more than fine. The key is being genuine. Ask the girl out for drinks, tell her how fine she is (politely). Don’t get wrapped into nonsense which makes you look inexperienced or easy to take advantage of. I could write a book about what all that nonsense is, and I might. But this is why you start having interactions with women while you’re young. I couldn’t imagine having to figure all of this out from scratch at 27.
Social media, the big factor
I live in a poor country. It’s technically “easier” for people here to get laid. The dating scene is more chilled out, and we don’t have incels here as far as I know. You’re going to want to forget about social media. You see the thing about social media, is that not everyone is using it. But we all know that not using social media vastly improves your social life. This means that even if your dating pool shrinks, keeping social media usage levels low or nonexistent is the right move. Social media is a winner-take-all game and making your life about mastering that is a waste of time. There are plenty of women, globally speaking, who aren’t that addicted to their phones. Social media raised everyone’s standards, and “ruined” dating. Don’t target women who are social media heavy and try to set up your lifestyle so that you don’t have to use it more than necessary. It’s not good for dating or building relationships of any type beyond professional.
Limiting beliefs seem to be what are destroying most men in the world of dating today. I don’t blame men for falling into those limiting beliefs. People like to forget, but 2011-2021 or so was a period of incredible societal cattiness. Young men of all ethnic groups across the world were made to be the butt of the joke online, which is where most of us young men source all of our media. It’s been incredibly discouraging, even if you don’t feel like an incel. A lot of the people who aren’t discouraged and are winning at life, are just coping through massive success. Hustle bro culture is almost as bad as curling up into a ball of self-pity. It’s very easy to see how a psychologically normal, but shy man might have developed limiting beliefs in this weird world. But if that’s you, let them go. Are you earning an income? Do you like your city? Are you healthy? Those are the important questions when it comes to dating, not how you look or how much money you have. This is especially true for one-night stands when you’re pulling in person, because everything can be faked. Work hard, establish yourself in the world, quit porn, and chill with the girls you want to. It’s that simple for most people, before getting into an actual relationship at least. It might seem like my list of limiting beliefs is basic, but it’s accurate. I’ve hooked up with girls in different countries, I’m not tall, and I’ve sometimes had money to throw around and sometimes gone without. If you’re stressing about looks, height, money, or a woman’s “attitude”, you’re probably stressing about nothing. That, or your environment is being altered artificially by socioeconomics. Dating might be a little more complicated in Malibu. That being said, I don’t know
Thanks for paying attention.
