I love America in many ways. It’s a great place to make money, the culture is highly energetic, and there’s a lot of action. But I don’t want to live there or settle down there at all. I’ve been overseas for years now and have had the privilege to explore some of the wealthiest and poorest areas of countries that would be considered “3rd world”. I’ve come to the conclusion that if you can make $30,000/ year or more, stay healthy, and stay out of warzones, living overseas is far superior to living in the United States. If healthcare is a concern, pick a first world country that isn’t Canada. Truth is, living overseas (in a functioning country) with pretty much any money at all is an absolute vibe, especially when you’re over 25. It’s all smiles and good service. I’ve also experienced less racism overseas as a black man, with Canada being the most racist place I’ve been to.
Passport bros have figured out this out… Kind of. They’re still stuck on the fact that women overseas are chill and keep looking back to American/Canadian/British women to throw stones. That being said they’ve got the right idea. Getting married and raising a kid overseas seems to beat marrying someone in the west from the many examples I’ve seen. Marrying someone in your home country and moving abroad with them is cool too, but passport bros don’t really want to do that, usually as a result of being turned off the underclass of their home countries. Totally understandable, and there are respectable ways to date/hook up with women overseas without end up like a mark. Just read what I have to say carefully.
Realize the actual value of going overseas
There are two legal reasons to go overseas for woman related stuff if you’re American, one less savory than the other. The first is if you’re from an expensive, cold, or ghetto area of (usually) the East Coast and want a peaceful and luxurious family life. Your money goes farther overseas, and being a passport bro makes total sense if you’re from these places as far as I’m concerned. These places are freezing cold, it’s hard to get your feet under you, and a lot of your friends and family members work too much for being near them to be worthwhile. And that’s if they’re successful. If your family’s poorer you might be supporting them. If you’re in this category, there is really no reason for you to end up dead. If you end up dead while looking for a wife, you probably were lacking in street smarts to a MASSIVE degree. The second reason to go overseas is because prostitution is legal or tolerated in a lot of the world. For better or worse, you’re not going to end up on a sex offender’s list for hiring a hooker overseas. Most countries don’t even have a registry. If you’re in this group, your odds of dying skyrocket, because people who travel for hookers are looking for low prices or total (often illegal) degeneracy. This obviously leads to a terrible spiral, and I don’t feel so sorry for people who get murdered and robbed by these women and girls. But I’ll still help people out, because a lot of heartache on both ends could be saved if guys travelling overseas knew a few things.
If you’re hiring hookers, go to established areas, stay in a building with security, and pour your own drinks
Every experience I’ve had with prostitution has been under peer pressure and grossed me out. But if you can handle being with a girl whose being paid, there are safe(ish) and legal ways to go about it. Most poor countries have whorehouses. You might lose your money in these places, but you won’t die. Bringing hookers home and messing with underaged (under 18 but above the age of consent that is usually 14–16 in Latin America/the Caribbean…super illegal, and if you’re American illegal even if they aren’t prostitutes) prostitutes is how people get drugged and killed. I’ve seen two men get drugged in my lifetime. They were on the same floor of the hotel as me, Spanish speaking but not locals, and didn’t die. But they tried to bring hookers home to a building with no doorman, and the women (justifiably) took advantage. Use high end escort services that are as close to being above board as possible. Stay in a building with security. The safest way to engage with sex workers is just to be nice to strippers. They’ll start hooking up with you for free or a dramatically reduced price if they like you. Either way, I’m giving you the side eye. You’ll probably come across this stuff if you’re under 35 and living in a poor country, but I don’t think socially aware westerners should view this stuff as a way to get laid. It’s icky.
If you’re dating regular women, “day game” is your friend
If you go to a nightclub and spend like an American, you’re going to attract the wrong type of attention in a lot of the world. Just talk to girls who live their lives during the daylight hours. There are far fewer problems when you do this. Everyone who I know who has been robbed by a woman overseas was robbed at night. Don’t use dating apps. That’s just crazy.
Only go for women earning a decent income
If you’re going to live in some poor country, you’ve got to understand reality. You don’t want a broke 3rd world hottie. They are hot, but you are not prepared for their feelings and life experiences. Did you keep pet chickens in your house as a child? Did your older brother drop a severed head on your kitchen table in an effort to show off his criminal exploits? Have you worked outside on cold streets wearing only a T shirt, because you only had one sweater and no drying machine, earning $10 per day? Probably not if you’re from a first world country. These are all stories I’ve heard from hot girls in 3rd world countries. Don’t date disadvantaged women. Not only is it cringe, but you just aren’t ready to understand what these women go through. Thankfully, every country has an economy of some sort. There are lots of women earning north of $750-$1,000 per month in poor countries. That might not sound like a lot to Americans, but women in this income bracket can afford to think, breathe, and hang out with you in decent places. I’m not familiar with every country, but in my experience these girls will be super normal, down to earth, and moral. Robberies, druggings, or murders are not common amongst office workers anywhere on planet Earth. Your USDs and relatively feminist attitudes should make you a catch.
Be aware of the economic situation in your target country and act accordingly
You want to be spending about 3 to 5 times as much as the average wage in your new place maximum. This will usually be between $750 and $4,000 per month in most of the poorer passport bro countries. If it’s a very poor country like Cambodia, you can bump the multiple up to 10 times the average salary, but you’ll need to be very selective with your company. No hanging out with normal people. Shopping centers, nice neighborhoods, organized hobbies. Hang out with people who own businesses and get money. Knowing these numbers should also tell you something about yourself. If you’re making 3 to 5 times the American median income, you should be moving overseas for lifestyle purposes, not just dating. If you can’t pull while making a top 5–10% salary, you have a personality issue and throwing money at women won’t help. You might think it does, but it really doesn’t. When I had nearly 6 figures in the bank in my home country, I couldn’t stop striking out. $700 for the month in Colombia? Pulled without speaking. People in Colombia are shorter, but it was really just a personality and skill issue on my part. I was young and dumb when I had money.
Passport bros made living and starting a family overseas seem whack, perverted, and overly complicated
Americans are weird about sex, and a lot of them seem to believe Americans who live overseas can just throw their weight around and do whatever they want. Combine this with the fact that everyone looks young overseas (natural foods, can’t afford toxic makeup and products, more family support leading to less stress etc.) and the fact that prostitution is often tolerated; you have a ripe environment for people to both be creepy and to think that others are being creepy abroad. It’s understandable, and a lot of incels are clearly tempted by living overseas. So, a bunch of weirdo social circle/pick up artist videos get filmed abroad, and the whole dating process is somehow simultaneously overcomplicated and oversimplified. Just make a few pick up artist social skill moves and pull infinite [insert fetishized country]’s women bro…
In reality, it’s just way easier to meet a girlfriend or wife who is conventionally attractive overseas, and people are more chill than Americans of their equivalent social class. That’s been my experience everywhere. You’re moving for your future family life and the vibes. That’s it. There’s hookup culture abroad, especially in Latin America, but it’s FAR easier to access in the United States and Canada. Especially if you’re going to need to learn a new language to make your move happen. Moving overseas is for long term thinkers. When you’re moving abroad, you’re thinking about healthcare, high-quality housing, hobbies, work-life balance, getting married, and raising future children. Not quite what attracts online passport bro types. Those guys haven’t lived abroad and are into the idea that they “should” pull “9s” and “10s” when they’re overseas. That’s the mentality that causes people to end up dead.
Thanks for paying attention.
By Rising Current on .
Exported from Medium on November 8, 2024.
