If you’re trying to get laid, make friends, or get a girlfriend, the best strategy is to use cold approach. This shouldn’t actually be controversial, but apparently it is. Cold approach is the best way to go when it comes to actually getting a date. Even in 2024. Even with the rise of Instagram. Learning how to cold approach women is the best way to improve your dating life, besides making more money and moving.
What is cold approach?
It’s when you go up to a woman and try to create a connection without knowing her. It can be pretty easy sometimes but can also lead to awkward moments and brutal rejections. It takes a lot of guts and can feel risky, but the payoff is worthwhile. You could meet the love of your life simply by taking initiative.
Online dating is competitive
This means that you’ll probably be able to meet women from cold approach who would have swiped left on you online. They just have a ton of options online, and they’re picking and choosing the best, like anyone would. No shame in not being the best at this one. Men outnumber women by 2 to 1 on the apps (generally speaking), so that means you’re probably about twice as attractive as they make you feel, or more. Don’t use online dating, don’t talk to stuck up women. There are a lot of headaches that can be avoided by men by simply redirecting their energies.
Social media is a waste of time
You should use social media as a form of cheap entertainment at most, not as a form of communication. Social media is a massive time suck. A few good photos on Instagram can get you some extra dates, but you have to meet these women in person anyway. Better to just go up and talk to them if you can.
Cold approach can/should intersect with your hobbies
This is called a healthy social life. A lot of us either work too hard or spend too much time messing around to have one. But if you’re doing fun and interesting stuff, cold approach just becomes life. You don’t even need to waste a ton of time thinking about dating. It all happens naturally.
Less competition
Unless you’re in a bar or a club, women aren’t just being cold approached all day. A lot of people don’t talk to women they don’t know at all. So, you won’t be one of a million guys trying to get at her. If you’re smart, you’re cold approaching on a nice sunny day outdoors. Now there’s really no competition. It’s all about whether she’s single and wants to hang out.
What stops people from cold approaching?
Shame. A lot of people are getting into random sex scandals, both famous and not. Now is not the time to be seen as a creep. I understand, but if you’re not doing anything wrong, you should fight. Fight in the case means go to talk to girls. Move on quickly if they aren’t interested, but don’t let people who are paranoid or mean spirited stop you from *checks notes*… talking to people in public places?
Cold approach is the best. If you start doing it, you’ll probably meet some beautiful women who are super nice. Especially if you go out during the day. It can take guts to talk to women during the day, but the way to do it without feeling like a creep is by not doing a lot, and by being polite whenever you do it. Don’t tell women off the wall sexual stuff when you first meet them, and you should be ok with a bit of practice. If you have some discipline, you’ll be able meet some ladies living near you without feeling bad or like a creep if you cold approach. It’s very possible for you to make it happen, you just need to gather up your courage, gain some confidence, and start practicing.
Thanks for paying attention.
